“Khóc Thuê”: The Art of Mourning in Vietnam & China

If you’ve ever been to a Vietnamese funeral, you might have noticed something unforgettable—deep, soul-stirring cries filling the air. But here’s the kicker: not all those tears come from family members. Some of them are from “khóc thuê”, or professional mourners, hired to make sure the send-off is as emotional and respectful as it can be.

I know what you’re thinking—why hire someone to cry? Well, in Vietnam, a loud, heartfelt funeral shows love and respect for the deceased. Not every family can openly express their grief or has enough people to create that emotional atmosphere, so these mourners step in. They cry, wail, and even sing poetic tributes that can break your heart in the best way.

It’s not about faking feelings—it’s about honoring the departed with all the emotion they deserve. While less common in cities today, “khóc thuê” remains a cherished tradition in rural areas, reminding us of the power of connection and community, even in times of loss.

A 14 year old girl is working as a "hired mourner" in China

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How much do they get paid?

Professional mourners, or “khóc thuê,” in Vietnam can earn varying fees based on factors like the family’s financial status, the funeral’s scale, and the mourner’s reputation. While specific data for Vietnam is limited, insights from neighboring China indicate that top-tier professional mourners can earn annual incomes exceeding $28,000 USD.  Given the cultural similarities, it’s plausible that experienced mourners in Vietnam receive comparable compensation, especially when serving affluent families or participating in elaborate ceremonies.

Would you have imagined mourning could be an art form? In Vietnam, it truly is.

Do I personally agree? I respect it. It’s beautiful in its way, though I think it should align with the family’s genuine wishes and feelings. What’s your take on it?

At the end of the day, it's a choice! Go hire a professional mourner if you have no tears left to cry.

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